Love! Love!! Love!!
Love is an ethereal sensation. It has existed from the dawn of time. It has been exposed to a variety of other emotions, and I believe the word has lost its beauty. There are, however, exceptions. Love is not a curse just because some people have had bad experiences with it.
Have you ever told your pals about problems you’re having with your relationship, only for them to dismiss them as unimportant? Have you ever watched a buddy start a new relationship with someone you believe is absolutely unsuited, but it seems to be going well?
Two measures have been discovered by psychologists that determine how we begin and maintain relationships.
One assesses how much value we place on first impressions and early signals of compatibility, while the other assesses our willingness to work through relationship issues. Because we don’t generally talk about them, they’re termed implicit theories of relationships. We may intuitively assume that we are more or less likely to believe in real love, but this is not something we discuss openly with others or are aware of when we begin new relationships.
These two scales, when combined, can tell us if we’re more inclined to avoid discussing problems with our partners, look for flaws where none exist, and “ghost” our way out of relationships. Differences in these implicit views can also help us comprehend why other people’s romantic decisions can be so perplexing.